Toby's Therapy Philosophies
  • People do what works for them.
  • God made us for connection.  Isolation, individually or relationally is bad for us.
  • True empathy is one of the most powerful forces in a relationship.
  • Unhealthy relationships can look a lot like anxiety, depression or mania when looked at in isolation.
  • Vulnerable communication in relationships cures a lot of common ailments.
  • The strength of relationships is directly correlated to the commitments that are honored and kept.
  • You have very limited power to change your partner/spouse, you can only change you.
  • The distance between expectations and reality is disappointment.
  • People are more comfortable with binary choices, but life is usually more complicated. 
  • If you are keeping score in your relationship, there won’t be any winners.
  • Get rich quick schemes don’t work, neither do quick therapy fixes.
  • You are the expert of you.